If you exclude the fact that most of us are mothers, wives, daugthers, or friends. How would define yourself?
Is it your by your actions, your deeds, how you react in times of adversity, how humble you are in times of triumph.
Last week a lady from my church called and asked for three things about myself that people didn't know. After some prodding and pondering, my answers were: I play on a Classic Premier soccer team, I've written a book, and I've climbed fifteen mountains (not sure if that number is totally accurate, but it's somewhere around there).
I thought about it over the weekend and found it funny that I would define myself that way. I could have mentioned that I'm actually incredibly shy around people I don't know (which sometimes gets mistaken for being a snob), I could have said that I'm very accommodating (in order to avoid confrontation). I could have said that I feel like I fall short of most things (which is probably how we all feel, at times). I could have said that I'm an incredibly emotional person and can cry at the drop of a hat.
Instead of defining myself by how I feel or react, I defined myself by what I've accomplished. I guess it's just not wanting to open myself up emotionally to people I don't know very well or at all. Did I mention that I'm also very guarded. I can do it here, because I'm not going to meet any of you in the grocery store tomorrow.
Analogy to writing: How do you define your characters? Finding my characters emotional state of being is the thing I struggle with most, probably because I'm not really in touch with my own. I just read a few chapters for a friend and even though not much action was going on, she nailed her characters emotions so well that it kept me riveted.
I hope that one day I can learn to do that.
Sorry, I kind of wondered around a bit in this post.
Hope everyone has a good week.